I’m excited to share with you why your Soul Purpose craves neutrality in your relationships. When you are the observer, or being neutral, you can show up and live in alignment with your Soul Purpose. Any negative energy triggered in relationships has the power to take you off track. That’s why it’s important to be neutral in your relationships so it doesn’t stop you! I’ll share with you examples from my own business.
When Other People Don’t Like You and Are Judging You
I had a big launch in Brazil where I did Facebook ads, daily Facebook Live videos and emails. One person sent me a message. The message was filtered through Facebook. Apparently, this person sent me a friend request and I didn’t see the friend request. I had over 300 friend requests in my Facebook.
If the person doesn’t know anyone that I know. If it feels like it’s a spam Facebook profile, I will not add.
I don’t know why, but I was so busy with my launch that I didn’t even add anyone in the last month. Basically, nobody who sent me a Facebook request.
This person sent me a message saying something very rude in a sense of, “You didn’t add me as a friend, so why should I want to take your course?”
My position in this case, I was “okay?!”.
Being Okay with Negative Comments is Neutrality
What brought me to this conversation is the importance of being okay with other people’s actions or judgments towards you. Like if you’re walking down the street, and that’s pretty much how I felt about this situation.
If you’re walking down the street and someone stops you and say, “Hey, I don’t want to be your friend anymore,” you’re going to say, “Okay,” right?
However, when you have inside of you the feeling of, “I need to please everyone,” the feeling of, “I cannot mess it up. If I mess it up, my life is over.” Right?
If I had that running or if I had running that I need to please everybody, if I thought that my work was for everyone, right?
If I had those thoughts and feelings this comment that I received from this person could have hurt and could have stopped me from doing what I was doing. Right?
It’s going to be a block in your way. Stopping you from connecting and living your soul purpose.
It’s very very important to have neutrality when someone comes at you with whatever.
What to do in relationships when someone is triggered by you?
By becoming the observer you can more easily step into neutrality.
It’s important to understand that.
If someone else being triggered effects you, what people think about you and the judgments that come from other people in regards to what you do, how you do …
Ask this question:
What it is for you that is creating the misunderstanding in relationships?
How to deal with the fear of being judged?
Let’s talk about the points of judgment, like when you are judging yourself even before you take action. You maybe are overthinking what people going to say, what people going to do, what if people don’t like me?
The first thing to understand is that that is a need. We all have different needs inside of us, but when we have the need to be approved. Or when we have the need for our value to be seen, for others to see our value. That can stop you from having success in your relationships, from just showing up and being neutral.
Every launch there is something that comes up where someone else is judging me.
If I allowed myself to be afraid …
If I received a comment that someone doesn’t like what I’m doing or how I’m doing it, and if I care … I don’t want to say I don’t care, but it’s like if that is what’s really important for me to receive approval from everyone. Then that would stop me from taking the action I need to complete my launch.
I’ve learned to grow a thicker skin for those interesting comments I get! So I can complete my soul purpose.
Staying in Neutrality brings your Soul Purpose results
There’s always something interesting going on every launch I do. I should write a book about everything that comes through, but three years ago there was this … I made my very first Facebook ads.
When I do Facebook ads, you expose it to all different kinds of environments and vibration, so there was one person that did a very bad comment about the Akashic records class and looks like her friends start commenting too, so on my Facebook ad there was all these not nice comments.
What had happened to me, and this was very interesting because it was my very first time dealing with all this. Being my authentic self in public and receiving judgement and all that.
At the time I was in a Facebook community and I commented in that community. I stayed neutral and shared how it was very interesting. I showed the comment, or I mentioned it, and because I mention it I believe just from that community, on my very first Akashic Records class, 10 people signed up to the class because of my neutrality towards the negative Facebook ad comments.
Let go of the need to be approved
The first thing is to understand that actually people cannot hurt you. They can however touch the hurt that is already inside.
A specific energy, for example, let’s say when you’re young you saw your father going to work and he was leaving you because he was going to work and that felt like an abandonment. For some of us, you lost someone or someone somehow left, so that feeling of abandonment, that feeling of I need to be approved, I need everyone to like me no matter who they are create these needs.
When you’re running all of those feelings it’s hard for you to have the neutrality to separate yourself from the situation. Separate you and what you do and what happened and how you feel about what to do and about how others would think about your services.
Bring it back to the neutrality and the mindset of being in your heart and your truth. That this is how I can support those who are ready to work with me.
Following through with your Soul Purpose
You’re in you zone and you intuitively received an idea to send an email to your tribe and offer let’s say a session with you, and so you did it one time and then nobody answered. Because of that, you didn’t send any other reminders. Many times, what happens is, something that you send would be interesting for someone but they could not get to it at that time and they’re not going to be remembering so it’s important for you to remind them.
Then you don’t do it and because you don’t do it, that person missed the opportunity of transformation by working with you and you missed the opportunity to support someone. The tip here, when you are stopping yourself in your relationships because your own fears are reaching out, what you can do is rewire the mindset. Why you do what you do. Why aren’t you sharing your worth? Also, bringing back to the neutrality. What if the reason they didn’t sign up to work with you is not about you, it’s not about yourself, and it’s just about whatever is going on in their life?
Use Neutrality to Clear the Energy and Create Space
If you are in a room with 4 people that are judging you or not in alignment with you or making you irritated and you wanted to share how you can help them, but if they’re not ready to hear they’re just taking this space for those who are in the back of the room trying to hear you.
You have your hands full, but it’s full of people not in alignment. It’s full of people in the wrong vibration, and that brings a vibration of doubt. It’s very important to start cleaning it up everything that’s no longer in alignment so I really would like to encourage you to give … I’m going to give you an exercise for this to start looking at every area in your life and how you can clean it up so that it can attract the right relationships.
It could be love relationships, friendship relationships, business relationships, but start looking at how I can clean the space for my ideal client, for the people that are alignment with my truth to cover up in my lie.
I just deleted 5,000 emails this last week from my Brazil list. If anyone didn’t open my email in the last month they all got deleted. I deleted 5,000 people. Now I have space for the people that are coming now and are ready to open the emails.
For me, it’s a beautiful way to clean the energy and of everything that no longer serves you. I feel like I’m constantly growing and I believe you are too, so who I was yesterday is not who I am today and so it’s like there is so much new coming through, especially with all this information that is coming now. It’s a beautiful place to be and to clean everything out that is no longer in alignment.
As I was concentrating and coming up with the topics, what I heard is no matter what you do, people will talk. People will judge. Just get over it. Get over it and see it as an opportunity for cleaning. If you say something and it’s not in alignment with others or if people are going to stop following you. They’re going to stop following you, but they’re going to make opportunity and they’re going to clear this space for those who are in alignment with you.
AKASHIC RECORDS SOUL PURPOSE COURSE
Join me in my Facebook Group for more tips every Wisdom Wednesday 4pm PST.
And if you’re ready to come on a journey to Reconect to the Wisdom of your Soul Through the Akashic Records.
Join Here: https://www.akashicrecordsinstitute.com/sp/