Today we are going to talk about what your energetic field has to do with your boundaries. In last weeks blog you learned that there are 4 types of boundaries. Soft, spongy rigid and flexible. They each have different energetic aspects.
Anytime you have a hard time setting up healthy boundaries, this happens because there are a lot of bottled up emotions trapped in your energetic body. All your fears and memories of past experiences are clogging up your thoughts and literally your energetic body. This creates a lot of confusion and lack of trust in yourself and therefore makes it hard for you to set up your boundaries in a way that honors yourself.
Sometimes in extreme situations, you may act out of very harsh boundaries because deep down you do not want to be hurt again. Or in the other extreme, of soft boundaries you may say yes to everyone even against your will, because you are very worried of what others will think of you.
Why some people choose extreme rigid boundaries?
We always learn something from the experiences we live through and this learning comes in forms of beliefs or agreements that we make with ourselves depending of what we learn.
For example, if you grew up seeing your mother being hurt because your father left her. From your eyes as a child seeing all that going on, you might create a belief that you need a shield where no one will ever be able to get close to you. This shield is to protect you so you will never feel hurt like your mother did or any of the other emotions you felt.
As a child watching that you probably attached emotions like sadness, frustration and even anger to that belief. So today when someone does not carry out their part of the deal, you might explode to a point of losing it. This is all connected to boundaries, from the need to have very rigid boundaries in place to protect you from ending up like your mother.
Why some people choose extreme soft boundaries?
Co-dependent individuals tend to give up their time, money, effort and energy for others. They also tend to easily pick up other people’s energies as a way to ease the other person’s pain and suffering. If you have such tendencies, you are often most likely feeling tired and exhausted.
This scenario can happen when you know people around you maybe your parents, kids, clients or friends are used to pushing your boundaries. And you end up being in a situation where you give, give, give to the point of resentment. You know you are not happy with where you are, and yet, you really feel stuck because maybe in the past you even tried to fight against it, but you were put back in your place.
One thing’s for sure, when you start setting healthy boundaries in place, people who are used to you caving in will complain, because they are used to your reaction of a certain way. the secret is to create space for yourself to develop your own growth around it and build with ease and grace a relationship where everyone feels heard.
If that is you, set the intention to:
Let people take care of their own issues and life lessons.
The secret to changing harsh and soft boundaries by balancing feminine and masculine energies
Every one of us is made of masculine as well as feminine energies regardless of gender.
Masculine energy is characterized by focus, power to act, taking space and setting very harsh boundaries.
Feminine energy is characterized by the desire to connect, to be receptive, and to transcend boundaries in order to connect to others. Having a good balance between both energies, allows one to connect with others while keeping healthy boundaries and a good sense of self.
So how can you change that?
The interesting thing about beliefs and emotions is that depending on the belief, you are going to hold that energy of that belief in a specific area of your body.
Most people, instead of expressing emotions, end up stuffing inside, feelings of hurt, anger, confusion, sadness, and these unexpressed feelings accumulate in the energetic body until there is nowhere else to go… then that energy causes blockages, diseases in the physical body, and preventing you to have healthy boundaries.
Creating Healthy Boundaries by Clearing the Energy
I have developed a process, where I in partnership with my healing guides access the Akashic Records of the body of the participants. Through this process, we are able to identify what are the beliefs, feelings or emotions being held in the body and preventing a person to structure healthy boundaries. Also, when I mentioned about the people around you pushing your boundaries, this is also something we will be addressing in the circle sessions.
When someone thinks of you, their energy comes naturally to you, regardless if they had good or bad thoughts. If they are worried with you, or anxious, they’re going to occupy your space with this energy anxious and nervousness. Same thing if they are upset with you or criticize something you’ve done.
This heavy energy will stay around you in what we call your aura and create dense masses that block the smooth movement of energy flows throughout your body.
When I perform the energetic clearing in the Healing Circle there is always someone else’s energy being cleared from participants space!
And its very important to have your energy clear from other people’s energy, especially if you also work with clients, because when your space is filled with other people’s energy, fears or worries, you begin to react to things from a perspective that is not your own!
I’d love to know in the comments below what resonated with you or any question you have about what your Energetic Field has to do with your Boundaries?